The Bride

Amanda Shawna Boney

Irwin and I have been friends for a few years. We would have seen each other in various “limes” post teen years. Good times! I remembered Irwin one way…. 10 years later, after going to the UK to study, work and enjoy another culture, I came back to a new perspective of Mr. Irwin :). He would always be the one to give my sisters and I a lift home and look out for us, because we live in the same area. He was a very good friend to the family.These conversations were rich and had depth in various areas. I really enjoyed them, his outlook and responses. One day when he was dropping me home and we had almost reached the destination, he said he wanted to ask me a question… I thought to myself, here it comes… He asked whether I felt we could be more than friends, I was stunned and basically said no.. He was not phased. It felt like he responded in context and after long conversations about how we felt about each other and what we wanted, we decided to give it a test drive. We went to various locations in Trinidad, to talk some more, these included: UWI, Hyatt, the Queens Park Savannah and the car of course. Roses and cheese cake had to stop because I wouldn't be able to make an objective decision :)... We talked, went out for Sushi and went Hong Kong Graffiti (one of my favourite restaurants), and other places within the space of one month. At the end of one process begins another, we agreed to become “more than friends” and get to know each other in a more significant way (setting: the boardwalk, beautiful evening, smiling faces). We enjoyed one year of sharing experiences together with talks, talks and laughter. Irwin is very thoughtful and every conversation is invested with time and sincere attention to truth. The miles don’t seem long enough for him to care or show generosity and consideration. Its been a journey of learning and discovery since and the months just seem to provide more understanding of God’s design for our lives.